On LGBT

So LGBT has been kind of a hot topic in Indonesia recently, I think mainly due to the case of an Indonesian entertainer who was reported of committing sexual assault to a minor of the same gender (male).

Because of that, articles about how to see if someone is gay and how to prevent your kids from being turned into a gay have been popping up like crazy!

I ignored whatever they were saying until I read this article, and I quote:

The leading psychiatric body in Indonesia is claiming that transgender people suffer from a mental health disorder and gay and bisexual people are at risk of mental health problems.

In the latest outburst in an increasingly divisive domestic debate on lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) issues, the Indonesian Psychiatric Association said transgender people “can be categorised as persons with mental disorders”, which it said “may cause suffering and obstacles in functioning as a human being”.

The IPA also said that homosexuals and bisexuals were in danger of developing a psychiatric disorder unless they “maintain their mental health by guarding their behaviour, habit, healthy lifestyle, and increasing their ability to adapt to their social environment”.

Seriously? First of all, transgenderism is NOT a mental health disorder! And to think this came from the leading psychiatric body? I really cannot believe this.

Oh wait, it is a mental health disorder, if you are still living in the 1970s, that is.

Now let me give you my personal stand towards LGBT: I am a Catholic and LGBT is considered a sin in Catholicism. Personally, I don’t believe LGBT is right, but I’ve grown to be acceptance to the community because, simply, they are humans, just like us. I believe I don’t have the rights to judge them just because they prefer same-sex relationships. Heck, even Pope Francis is tolerant towards the LGBT community. If he can do it, why can’t we?

“If someone is gay and searches for the Lord and has good will, who am I to judge?”

I really like the above statement. Let me emphasise it once again: WHO AM I TO JUDGE?

My first encounter with LGBT was back when I was in university. Was I shocked? Yes, kind of. I won’t deny it. However, as shocked as I probably was, I never for once rejected them as friends. What was on my mind were things like, “How could someone be a lesbian / gay? What was the possible cause?”. I was curious, you see, as I didn’t get a lot of exposure in this area before I went to Malaysia to further my studies and then Singapore for work. So yea, I was simply curious but I didn’t look at them with disgust.

One of my good friends is a lesbian AND a catholic too. She and her partner go to church on Sundays. This is a very good example that is relevant to Pope Francis’ quote above. I’ve never judged her for liking the same gender and well, lesbian or not, it doesn’t make any difference in our friendship. She is a really awesome friend, she has good will and I love her! And she doesn’t have any mental health disorder nor is she at risk of mental health problems. Surprise surprise?

A person once asked me, in a provocative manner, if I approved of homosexuality. I replied with another question: ‘Tell me: when God looks at a gay person, does he endorse the existence of this person with love, or reject and condemn this person?’ We must always consider the person. Here we enter into the mystery of the human being.

It was another excerpt from the Pope Francis article.

Anyway, Catholic church has been more welcoming to the LGBT community than it was a few years ago, which I personally think is quite heartwarming because, again, everyone deserves to be loved. If a gay / lesbian comes into the church and wants to look for God, shouldn’t we give them the space, accept and embrace them with open arms instead of snubbing them? We should help them in whatever way we can.

If you think it is a sin for them to be a gay / lesbian, let it be a matter between them and God. Why should we interfere?

My parents do not really think of LGBT as acceptable and I can understand that because back in the days, it was relatively uncommon and unheard of. However, for many young adults in this 21st century, if you condemn LGBT, please just keep it to yourself and don’t invite others to condemn the community as well. How would you like it if it happens to your own family members? Will you like it if they are ostracised from the society?

Earlier today I saw a post that has been making rounds on Facebook:

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Okay, I’m not sure which newspaper was this from, but let me translate it to English:

“The National Commission of Child Protection would like to remind parents to tighten up supervision towards their children to prevent them from the impact of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT). Currently there are thousands of young kids and teenagers who are into same-sex relationship.

Signs of a gay:

  1. Takes selfie a la teenybopper
  2. Likes staring at a guy’s bottom
  3. Stares at the guy he likes intensely
  4. Takes care of his appearance
  5. Up to date with the fashion trend
  6. Smells good
  7. Wears makeup
  8. Wears an earring on one of the ears (usually the right one)
  9. Adores guys
  10. Wears V-neck shirts

Upon reading this, I burst out laughing cos it’s just so pathetic to the point it’s ridiculous I couldn’t believe it! I mean, look at #6???? So are you saying that a ‘real’ man is smelly, doesn’t take care of his appearance and wears crew-neck shirts all the time???

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Sorry, I couldn’t help it.

My fiancé wears V-neck shirts and heck, he looks good in them and yes, he is straight. Otherwise, he wouldn’t be my fiancé, would he?

#9 – Adores guys. So does it mean a guy who adores David Beckham for his awesome skills is considered gay? Does it mean a guy who adores Jack Ma for his amazing business acumen is gay? LOL oh dear!

Last but not least, someone in one of my Whatsapp groups forwarded the following message: 1

Some people really need to take the chill pill. They are just emojis, for goodness sake! Well, you can always look at them from a different perspective. Think of them as children in a family or love between twins or siblings. See, suddenly it looks much more positive, no? And anyway, emojis are supposed to brighten up your conversations, so let’s not make such a big fuss over it, shall we?

To end my post, I’m gonna repost the quote again to serve as a reminder for all of us:

“If someone is gay and searches for the Lord and has good will, who am I to judge?

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2 thoughts on “On LGBT

  1. Agree. It’s like condemning people because they prefer tomato sauce over chili sauce. It’s really none of our business. But you know, Indonesia.. There is bigger issue but they prefer helping their weak gods to judge and condemn people.
    To quote Trio Kwek Kwek’s Katanya, “Indonesia negeriku, orangnya lucu-lucu.” xD

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