8 Months To Go & Wedding Shoes

It’s now end of January, which means it’s slightly more than 7 months to our big day and…. a lot have yet to be settled!

Let’s recap what have I settled on so far:

  1. Venue (inc. food, entertainment, photo booth and decoration)
  2. Make Up Artists for both holy matrimony and reception
  3. Wedding bouquet and boutonniere for holy matrimony (DIY! hehehe)
  4. Bridal car for the reception
  5. Wedding shoes
  6. Wedding bands
  7. Photographer + Videographer
  8. Choir for holy matrimony

Ermm…. that’s all I think. We still have quite a lot to settle hahaha! I’ll need to settle on my wedding dress when I am going home for CNY next week, and something that’s equally important… CONTACT LENS! I’m not gonna be a blind bride throughout the reception nor look geeky in my black-rimmed glasses while I’m all lady-like in my dress (I hope).

I have yet to muster up the courage to try on contacts because it’s just scary!! Actually I did try it a couple of years ago when I was back in Jakarta for holiday. Acuvue was having a roadshow in a shopping mall near where I stay and I decided to give it a try. I think I took like 10 minutes trying to insert the lens into my eyes. It wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be, and I carried on shopping without any difficulty and it actually felt pretty comfortable!

However, I had major difficulty removing them out of my eyes!! I went back to Acuvue to get some direction on how to take it out. I tried and tried for a good 20 minutes before I finally gave up and asked one of the staff to remove them out for me -________-

The thing is, every time my hand was coming close to my eye, it gave a natural reaction of blinking AND it doesn’t help that I couldn’t seem to pick out the lens properly -___-

So yea, I HAVE to do it this time, for real. Because I did try not wearing glasses during the last 2 times I became a bridesmaid and I had a terrible headache at the end of the day.

The idea of removing contact lenses seriously freaks me out! I’m actually considering to get a SoftSert applicator (or a similar one from another brand), but not sure if it will actually help. I think it will, otherwise what’s the purpose of it, right? Oh man, this is just a small issue but I’m actually super worried about it! Everyone who wears contacts have always told me that removing it is easy peasy, but inserting it is harder. Not for me, unfortunately.


This is a Lobob applicator, one that I’m considering of buying (I already have it in my Amazon cart hahahaha). Not sure why but the SoftSert website doesn’t seem to exist anymore?

Anyway, let’s move on to happier things!

I’ve actually gotten my wedding shoe last year, which is Melissa Queen II in white / gold:

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I actually wanted the Vivianne Westwood Anglomania series:

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but I couldn’t find it.

Til one day (just a few weeks ago, actually) I was randomly browsing for Melissa shoes on Amazon and…

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😀 My eyes grew big from excitement! Not Vivianne Westwood but it’s equally pretty! So I quickly placed an order and it arrived a week after.

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It’s really very cute hahahaha

Oh, the reason why I bought flats instead of heels is that I can’t really stand (pun unintended) wearing heels. Most of the time I will be limping, feeling like throwing the shoes as far as I can (cos my toes and balls of feet will be very painful). To date, there are only a few pairs of heels I’ve ever owned that were very comfortable for long period of wearing.

And I am all for comfort > style, so I want a pair that will allow me to walk around comfortably on my big day, especially when I am mingling around with my guests 😀

Now that I’ve got the heart shoes, the Melissa Queen will be used as part of my sang jit gift.

(A lil trivia: do you know sang jit is the Hokkien for 送日頭 (Sòng rì tóu). The full term is actually sang jit-thau, and it is abbreviated as sang jit. It is how most Indonesian chinese called the bethrotal ritual, despite of their dialect background.)

Engaged Encounter – Done!

We have finally done our Engaged Encounter weekend on 12 – 14 June 2015!

Some may think it’s too early as our wedding is on the second half of next year but it’s ok! We registered for the weekend back in January and even then, the earliest one available was in June!

Basically there are 2 types of marriage preparation courses that you can take before you get married in a catholic church: Marriage Preparation Course (MPC) and Engaged Encounter (EE). What differentiate MPC from EE is that the duration is longer (it spans across 6 consecutive weekends while EE only takes up 1 weekend) and I guess the material that’s delivered will be different from that of EE.

EE can actually be done by couples at anytime during their courtship (so if they find out that they are not that suitable, they can opt not to go to the next stage of life together), and MPC, as I understand it, is usually done after a couple is officially engaged.

I was actually down with a bad case of flu since Thursday and I thought if it did not get better by Friday, there was a possibility for me to cancel the session and if we did, we had to re-book the next available one in… no idea. Maybe 7 – 8 months from now?

I was still feeling under the weather when I left the house on Friday evening though. I had cold sweat and it did not help that the sky was crying buckets that night. Thankfully I felt a lot better after a good night sleep (those cough syrup really helps!) and so I could enjoy the weekend wholeheartedly.

There were surprisingly quite a number of non-Catholic. I mean, I know that EE is opened to non-Catholic (as long as your partner is a Catholic), but honestly I did not expect it to be that many. Not that this is a bad thing, though. On the contrary, I feel that it’s very sweet of them (non-Catholic) to follow their partners to this weekend 🙂

Anyway, I am not gonna talk much about the sessions, but all I can say is that, if you are going to get married in a Catholic church, do not hesitate to sign up for this weekend! It was quite intense though! There was quite a lot of topics to be covered in around 48 hours (it started on Friday evening and ended on Sunday early evening around 6pm).

Even if you have no plans to get married in the near future, going for EE will help you to discuss things that you may have never talked about with your partner before and discover more about yourselves.

So yay! Another thing to be checked off our to-do list! 😀

Wedding Prep: Wedding Bands

Ermm… yea, we’ve gotten our wedding bands last Friday! Talk about kiasu or efficient or what? Hahaha!

We were walking towards the Orchard MRT from Wisma Atria when I spotted the big ‘Up to 50% Sale!’ in front of Soo Kee’s entrance at ION Jewellery Street. We had actually found a pair that we liked 3 months ago and the helpful Sales Assistant there actually wrote the model number on their name card, but I didn’t have it with me that day. The SA who attended to us tried to help by asking how were they looke like, whether they were white gold or platinum, etc. I did try to look for them too but to no avail. So they showed us a couple of different rings and we narrowed down our choices to 2 pairs: the first pair is made of platinum and the other one is white gold.

Now personally I am not really into platinum as they tend to look duller than white gold. We tried them on and we finally decided on white gold. It’s a Jac Laurent for Daisoman and half eternity band for me. Better still, they are a few hundreds cheaper than our initial option AND there was a 20% discount for the Jac Laurent one 😀

Engravings are being done at the moment and we’ll be able to collect the rings in 2 weeks time. Come to think of it, looking at the speed of how we settle things, some people may think we are getting married this year instead of next year. Hahaha!

So far, we’ve settled the following:

  • Venue
  • Catering (haven’t finalized the menu though)
  • Decoration (have yet to meet the decorator in person to discuss, but at least it’s a lot easier now)
  • MC & Entertainment (same status as decoration)
  • Wedding bands
  • Church  booking + priest
  • Wedding favor (erm.. as in we have found what favor we want and Daisoman has designed the box for it as well)

Soo Kee Jewel Pavilion
#B2-66 ION Orchard
Singapore 238801

Wedding Prep: Venue

Daisoman and I went back to Jakarta on Thursday night with one intention: to settle on a wedding venue! We’ve narrowed down our options to 3 and so, we went to check them out personally on Friday. These are the 3 places we went to (on chronological order):

1. The Palms Ballroom

Located literally 15 minutes away from Daisoman’s house, this ballroom is located on the 5th floor of Mal Taman Palem. The shopping mall itself is nothing fancy. In fact, it’s rather old, but that’s not the point. I heard the ballroom has been renovated awhile ago and it actually looks okay (though it was empty when we were there and they were just setting up for a seminar). There are 5 halls available (2 big ones and 3 smaller ones) and with the amount of guests we have, it will take 1 of the big halls and all 3 smaller ones.

Price was okay too and one of their catering partners is the one that we initially wanted to go with: Bali Indah.

Downside: It is considered far for guests around Jakarta and transport arrangement for my extended families who will be coming from out of town will be quite a hassle.

2. JIExpo (Jakarta International Expo)

This is like the ultimate venue for exhibitions hahahaha. They do rent this for weddings but they have no wedding package. Means we can only rent the hall on its own and they have a bunch of partner vendors for catering, decoration and entertainment from whom we have to choose (there are extra costs if you would like to get your own vendors aside from their partners).

They do have Bali Indah as their catering partner and Lili Vicky for decoration (which we both like), but the hall that will fit our guests is already booked for our date, so nope!

3. Klub Kelapa Gading

My family used to be members of the sports club (then called Kelapa Gading Sports Club) for many years back  when I was in primary school all the way until I was 24/25 I think? So we pretty much know how the ballrooms, food and facilities were like. The last time I came here was a few years ago, so I was surprised when I found out that they have actually renovated the stage in the grand ballroom and it’s now bigger (wall-to-wall)! The public toilets have been renovated (again) as well and it is now so nice! Andddd they now have their own car park building!! Which is so awesome cos it used to be quite a pain finding a parking spot whenever we went for a wedding here cos there was not much space, but it shouldn’t be a problem now!

Their wedding package is also quite comprehensive (which is good cos it means there are less things on our list to settle!) and they gave us quite a few bonuses too.

Both Daisoman and I were more inclined to this venue since the beginning actually (although I have to say I wasn’t really excited with the idea of having my wedding here initially a few months ago cos I was just rather bored… I mean, I used to come here countless times and attended so many weddings here before, and it’s near my house, so yea. But after looking at the package again, I gotta say I like it!).

So we actually made our decision … 30 seconds after we stepped out of the venue HAHAHAHAHA. But we didn’t put in the down payment right away. Instead, we went back the next day to see the decoration (there was a wedding going on then, so we could see the ballroom decorated in all its glory) and put the down payment afterwards.

YAY! So happy that the biggest thing on the list is checked!! We also managed to go to The Wedding Boutique before making the venue downpayment to enquire for prices. Didn’t even plan for it, but I managed to try on 2 gowns as well. Both were from Jasmine Bridal. They stock up on Pronovias and St. Patrick too. I was eyeing 2 Rosa Clara and a Pronovias as well at a wedding boutique here in Singapore. I thought their prices were expensive ($1,600 for a Rosa Clara and $1,900 for the Pronovia), but after I knew the Pronovias rent fee at The Wedding Boutique, I would say it’s a lot cheaper in Singapore! Surprise surprise!

You know how they said that a guy would have a jaw-drop moment when they see their lady trying on a wedding gown for the first time? Well, I was hoping for that but unfortunately it didn’t happen.

What happened was, I was trying on the first gown that was selected by the sales staff: a semi-mermaid gown that looks quite pretty. So I put it on and when I turn around, I noticed that it was super backless! Hahahaha as in… backless all the way down to my waist. LOLOL! And the fact that it is too loose for me does not help in making me look at least prettier. So when they drew the curtains back, Daisoman was like… poker face. HAHAHAHA it was so funny though! I didn’t think it was nice either and when I asked him, “What do you think?”, his immediate response was… “Ermm.. I think there’s another gown just now right?”


So I went on to try the second gown and… I like it!! Daisoman likes it too! 😀

It was a semi-mermaid gown with no bling embellishment! I like simple dresses and I do not want those super poofy dresses where you need to wear a petticoat underneath! (I refer to the petticoat as chicken coop wtf).

No picture cos there’s no deal with the boutique yet, but yay! Find a gown that I like! Gonna be looking to perhaps 2-3 more boutiques before I make my decision. I’m not taking a bridal package, btw. Not a fan of thick makeup and strapless dresses. I have no idea why most of the bridal shops here stock up mostly on strapless dresses! I hate strapless dresses. It feels like it’s always gonna fall off and if the fitting is bad, armpit fats out for show yo!

Ok, more updates as we go along! 😀

Wedding Preparation 1.0

So we were officially engaged on Saturday! Ermm… not that we were not engaged before lah, just that the Chinese engagement kinda sealed the deal further 😀

We still haven’t got the wedding date yet. Wanted to have it in June next year initially but his mom said she will look for a good day before we should decide, so okay!

We already have a couple of vendors in mind actually, which is a blessing because they are either someone we our families know personally. Working with people you already know will definitely be more comforting! And we have also made a couple of checklist and budget spreadsheet hahahaha talk about being excited (or kiasu?!) since erm… a couple of weeks ago, even before he bought me the engagement ring!

So I shall pen down my wedding preparation journey here. It’s gonna be fun, exciting and… I don’t know. Stressful perhaps? But nevertheless, we’ll try our best to enjoy the ride!