Conversations with My Boss #2

It was a Friday. He walked in to the office and…

Him: Do you know what day is it today?

Me: What? Friday? (I somehow knew it would be related to lunch)

Him: Nope. Think again.

Me: Yea I know. It’s my turn (to pick a lunch venue) today.

Him: You know, by now I realised I’m a creature of habit, cos you and my wife can finish my sentences.

During lunch one day:

Him: So what has Felix been doing now that he’s free? (Felix was and is currently enjoying 2 weeks of freedom before he begins his new job next month)

Is he doing anything romantic for you, like making dinner, getting you flowers or something?

Me: I wish. At the very least he does the laundry.

Him: Well, that’s great, but why is he not doing anything sweet or romantic while he has the time now?

Me: Well, I’m not expecting anything. I’m happy he’s doing the laundry at home.

Him: Yeaa, I’m saying all this but if I’m in his position I’d probably not gonna do anything either. Cos it’s the only time you can really shut down from work.

But since it’s you I’m with, I’m supporting you!



I’ve found my dress!

With 6 months to go before the big day, I’m still relatively chill in this whole planning thing because most of our big ticket items have been settled!

I have also picked my wedding dress! 😀

Being quite a picky bride to be, I have my own preference for my wedding dress (which I believe most brides will have as well):

  • No strapless gowns
  • No chicken coop (a.k.a petticoat – I really hate petticoats)
  • No bling.

I don’t fancy Taiwanese-style wedding gowns because most of the times they are a complete opposite of what I listed above and often times they are very OTT (over the top). That’s why bridal shops are out of the question ever since we started planning the wedding and I much prefer simpler, European wedding dresses.

I’ve had my eyes set on a Pronovias when I first started looking for gowns and found a boutique here in Singapore that rents out the said brand. Pricing was reasonable too (I found out that it was cheaper to rent it in SG than Jakarta, but I’m not sure whether the ones in SG were new or if they had been rented out to other brides previously – in Indonesia they call this: “second” as in “second hand”. Some bridal shops actually classified their gowns in different grades, depending on how many times has a gown been worn before).

After shortlisting 4 different boutiques (all of them conveniently located around the area where I stay in Jakarta hahahaha), I made a point to make my selection when I went home for Chinese New Year last month (which explains why I took 3 days of leave so I was in Jakarta for the whole week).

The first option was Phangsanny. To be honest, I’ve never heard about this until my cousin (who is currently planning her upcoming May wedding as well!) picked her gown from the atelier.

I gave them a call to see if I could come over and they politely rejected me, saying that they were fully booked for the day. Oh well, my fault for not making an appointment beforehand (later I found out that my cousin was actually there at the boutique having her dress fitted when I made the call hahahahaha).

So I crossed out Phangsanny. The second one was The Wedding Boutique, which is a pretty famous one and I have actually been there last year when I came back to settle on the wedding venue. Tried one gown that looks quite nice but that was it. Pricing was on the higher side (as expected). I was quoted IDR 28,000,000 for a gown (not sure if it was new). Initially they quoted about 30,000,000 or so but I asked for mother’s and bridesmaids’ gowns to be taken out since I wanted to have them tailor made anyway). I have actually never returned to TWB since then. Mainly because I wanted to explore other options before making my decision.

The third one was Inezia Chrizita. She is an upcoming local wedding gown designer who happens to be a family friend. I knew her when we were in primary school! But I’ve lost all contact with her ever since (our mothers are still in touch with each other because they are long-time friends). Her boutique also happens to be very, very near to where I stay.

Inez wasn’t there at the boutique when I came by, and so I was serviced by her very helpful assistant. I tried on a couple of gowns but unfortunately there was no one that really caught my eye. Well, there was an off-shoulder model which I quite like, but I didn’t fancy the heavy embroidery on the chest and torso areas. The dresses were pretty, but I still prefer the simpler ones.

The last one was Aurelle House of Brides. They carry the Pronovias brands, such as La Sposa, Pronovias and Atelier Diagonal – hence the reason why I wanted to check it out.

The lady (Ivana) was very helpful and picked a couple of gowns for me to try on after I told her my preferences. The gown I picked is a new La Sposa! It’s simple, elegant and with just the right amount of sparkles. It’s a sleeeveless and most importantly, NO CHICKEN COOP. Hahahaha basically everything I wanted in a gown.

She offered me a package of IDR 29,000,000 which consists of:

  • Rental of 1 wedding gown
  • Rental of 3 dresses for pre-wedding photo session
  • Rental of 2 bridesmaids dresses
  • Gown customisation (length customisation and if I ever want to add more blings, for example)
  • Veil, jacket (new made-to-measure)
  • Accessories + jewellery (rental)
  • A representative from Aurelle to help me with my gown on the D-day

Again, since my bridesmaids dresses are to be made-to-measure and I am gonna be having my pre-wedding photographs done in SG, I asked for them to be taken out and she also gave me further discount. In the end, the total price was IDR 25,500,000 and my mum very kindly offered to pay for it! 😀

I’m very happy that my gown has been settled! One thing off my checklist.


So LGBT has been kind of a hot topic in Indonesia recently, I think mainly due to the case of an Indonesian entertainer who was reported of committing sexual assault to a minor of the same gender (male).

Because of that, articles about how to see if someone is gay and how to prevent your kids from being turned into a gay have been popping up like crazy!

I ignored whatever they were saying until I read this article, and I quote:

The leading psychiatric body in Indonesia is claiming that transgender people suffer from a mental health disorder and gay and bisexual people are at risk of mental health problems.

In the latest outburst in an increasingly divisive domestic debate on lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) issues, the Indonesian Psychiatric Association said transgender people “can be categorised as persons with mental disorders”, which it said “may cause suffering and obstacles in functioning as a human being”.

The IPA also said that homosexuals and bisexuals were in danger of developing a psychiatric disorder unless they “maintain their mental health by guarding their behaviour, habit, healthy lifestyle, and increasing their ability to adapt to their social environment”.

Seriously? First of all, transgenderism is NOT a mental health disorder! And to think this came from the leading psychiatric body? I really cannot believe this.

Oh wait, it is a mental health disorder, if you are still living in the 1970s, that is.

Now let me give you my personal stand towards LGBT: I am a Catholic and LGBT is considered a sin in Catholicism. Personally, I don’t believe LGBT is right, but I’ve grown to be acceptance to the community because, simply, they are humans, just like us. I believe I don’t have the rights to judge them just because they prefer same-sex relationships. Heck, even Pope Francis is tolerant towards the LGBT community. If he can do it, why can’t we?

“If someone is gay and searches for the Lord and has good will, who am I to judge?”

I really like the above statement. Let me emphasise it once again: WHO AM I TO JUDGE?

My first encounter with LGBT was back when I was in university. Was I shocked? Yes, kind of. I won’t deny it. However, as shocked as I probably was, I never for once rejected them as friends. What was on my mind were things like, “How could someone be a lesbian / gay? What was the possible cause?”. I was curious, you see, as I didn’t get a lot of exposure in this area before I went to Malaysia to further my studies and then Singapore for work. So yea, I was simply curious but I didn’t look at them with disgust.

One of my good friends is a lesbian AND a catholic too. She and her partner go to church on Sundays. This is a very good example that is relevant to Pope Francis’ quote above. I’ve never judged her for liking the same gender and well, lesbian or not, it doesn’t make any difference in our friendship. She is a really awesome friend, she has good will and I love her! And she doesn’t have any mental health disorder nor is she at risk of mental health problems. Surprise surprise?

A person once asked me, in a provocative manner, if I approved of homosexuality. I replied with another question: ‘Tell me: when God looks at a gay person, does he endorse the existence of this person with love, or reject and condemn this person?’ We must always consider the person. Here we enter into the mystery of the human being.

It was another excerpt from the Pope Francis article.

Anyway, Catholic church has been more welcoming to the LGBT community than it was a few years ago, which I personally think is quite heartwarming because, again, everyone deserves to be loved. If a gay / lesbian comes into the church and wants to look for God, shouldn’t we give them the space, accept and embrace them with open arms instead of snubbing them? We should help them in whatever way we can.

If you think it is a sin for them to be a gay / lesbian, let it be a matter between them and God. Why should we interfere?

My parents do not really think of LGBT as acceptable and I can understand that because back in the days, it was relatively uncommon and unheard of. However, for many young adults in this 21st century, if you condemn LGBT, please just keep it to yourself and don’t invite others to condemn the community as well. How would you like it if it happens to your own family members? Will you like it if they are ostracised from the society?

Earlier today I saw a post that has been making rounds on Facebook:


Okay, I’m not sure which newspaper was this from, but let me translate it to English:

“The National Commission of Child Protection would like to remind parents to tighten up supervision towards their children to prevent them from the impact of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT). Currently there are thousands of young kids and teenagers who are into same-sex relationship.

Signs of a gay:

  1. Takes selfie a la teenybopper
  2. Likes staring at a guy’s bottom
  3. Stares at the guy he likes intensely
  4. Takes care of his appearance
  5. Up to date with the fashion trend
  6. Smells good
  7. Wears makeup
  8. Wears an earring on one of the ears (usually the right one)
  9. Adores guys
  10. Wears V-neck shirts

Upon reading this, I burst out laughing cos it’s just so pathetic to the point it’s ridiculous I couldn’t believe it! I mean, look at #6???? So are you saying that a ‘real’ man is smelly, doesn’t take care of his appearance and wears crew-neck shirts all the time???


Sorry, I couldn’t help it.

My fiancĂ© wears V-neck shirts and heck, he looks good in them and yes, he is straight. Otherwise, he wouldn’t be my fiancĂ©, would he?

#9 – Adores guys. So does it mean a guy who adores David Beckham for his awesome skills is considered gay? Does it mean a guy who adores Jack Ma for his amazing business acumen is gay? LOL oh dear!

Last but not least, someone in one of my Whatsapp groups forwarded the following message: 1

Some people really need to take the chill pill. They are just emojis, for goodness sake! Well, you can always look at them from a different perspective. Think of them as children in a family or love between twins or siblings. See, suddenly it looks much more positive, no? And anyway, emojis are supposed to brighten up your conversations, so let’s not make such a big fuss over it, shall we?

To end my post, I’m gonna repost the quote again to serve as a reminder for all of us:

“If someone is gay and searches for the Lord and has good will, who am I to judge?”

Overly Attached Boyfriend

You know the “Overly Attached Girlfriend” meme?

Overly Attached Girlfriend

It’s of this girl whose eyes are so huge when she opens them up to a maximum proportion and it just went viral. Hahaha! She actually looks quite pretty in her normal photos though!

Anyway, the mister asked me to try imitating her, which of course, I failed miserably, seeing how my eyes are of a smaller size than an almond. So I asked him to do it instead…


Presenting the Overly Attached Boyfriend! He looked so scary my phone didn’t even dare to snap his picture properly wtf.

Really! I kept on trying to focus on his face but I couldn’t! My phone just refused to do so! It knew the object was too scary. Hahahahahaha!!

The sky was crying hard for almost the whole day yesterday. Which is good cos it made the weather soooo cool and nice! Spent the Sunday at the mister’s place having a meeting and playing a board game (DiXit) which was so fun! Any game that allows you to team up and sabotage one of the players is cool. Hahahaha!


Look at those bunnies! Aren’t they cute? 😀





At this point of time, the mister was the one with the lowest point (yep, that’s him in yellow. Hehehehe), but he won the 2nd round!

Then we realised that all 6 of us were couples while 1 is not. So we decided to take a photo and graced it with a meme…

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HAHAHAHAHAHA! This is epic lor! Andy’s expression is just so apt with the whole picture. “Aku rapopo” means “I’m okay” in Javanese. I guess only Indonesians will get this meme. Hehehehe

It’s okay, dude. You’ll find someone soon!

I’ve been Caged

When I came to the office yesterday after an Easter long weekend, I expected nothing but my usual routine of unlocking my drawer, taking out my laptop, turning it on, and start running for the day.

However, I got a surprise when I saw THESE on my wall, in my drawers, and in my notebook:



HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I was laughing like crazy when I saw this! Luckily only a handful of people were around at that time.

I immediately knew it was Avtar’s doing! Who else would have this kind of idea but him? Hahaha! So when he walked into the office, he walked past my desk and giggled.

Me: Thanks for the surprise, ah!

Avtar: How many have you found so far?

Me: Four

Avtar: Where were they at?

Me: Nahh.. on the wall, 2 in the drawers, and 1 in my notebook

Avtar: That’s not all. You’ll see the biggest one soon

Me: What?! Where’s the other one??

Avtar: Just wait. It’s coming soon.


So okay, I went on with my day as usual. Then about 2-3 hours later, I received a phone call from a client. I was wondering why his voice sounded so distant and I kept on hearing some scratching sound in my ear. I thought it was my hair covering the receiver, so I swept it off, but no! That scratchy sound was still there! I’ve also increased the volume to the max but his voice still sounded rather distant.

Confused, I put the receiver away and that was when I saw it…



I pointed it out to Mag and she laughed so hard quietly (if that even makes sense). I had to resist from laughing like a siao char bor throughout the call! Once the call has ended, I could finally laugh in peace. LOL this is damn epic!

So yeah, I’ve been Caged on a Monday!

Before the year closes

I’m back in my hometown! Arrived here on Dec 26th and flying back on the 1st of Jan, which is… tomorrow! Wow! A new year is coming! Can’t be faster than that.

Anyway, was in Magelang and Solo from Dec 27th – yesterday. So here’s a sneak peek of what I had been doing/seeing/eating:










All photos were taken with iPhone 4S 😀

Gonna post more once I am back in SG with my laptop. Blogging on mobile now!

When a 15-mins-journey became a 90-mins

I just spent 1.5 hours+ on the road from Ambasador Kuningan to my office here at Wolter Monginsidi……..

….which normally can be reached within 15 minutes….

Yea I know, wt*peep* right? lol

So it was like this. 5 of my colleagues and I wanted to go to Ambasador to have our lunch. Since 2 of them was going to fetch an ex-colleague of theirs, they went by a different taxi while another 3 girls and I shared a taxi. And so we off, at 1pm something.

The journey to Ambasador was all smooth. No jam or whatsoever.

We reached there, eat, bought DVDs (, bla bla bla until 2pm something, then we proceed to the main gate to look for a taxi to go back tto the office. Fyi, it was already raining cats and dogs at that time.

Okay, so we were waiting at the entrance only to see lots of people fighting for taxis -_____-
Not exactly fight as in ‘fight’, but it was like you gotta stop the taxi quickly and run there before other people can touch the door. Lol

So like that lor. And we waited for around 10 minutes or so until it was 2:30 pm and we finally got our taxi.

By that time, the road outside Ambasodor was already flooded.

The main streets we passed by were all flooded quite deep. Motorists had to park their vehicles at the road sides as the water would go until exhaust-deep.

The road was freaking jammed!! And 4 of us were seating at the back seat. Looks like no one wanted to seat in front. LOL

Luckily we are all slim :p

After 1.5 plus of oh-so-bad traffic jam, we finally arrived at the office, safe and sound.

Pictures coming up. I didn’t bring my digicam and so I had to use my cell, and I didn’t bring the transfer cable with me.